The ragged pieces of ideas and thoughts of my attempt to live a life as a contemporary monastic in the urban city of Singapore..
A picture of us without any children .. err I mean without any children's face)
I finished doing up the roster for the new HopeKids LIVE! Service at 2:30 this morning. Sent it out to my all my 'partners in crime' and spent some time with God as i wondered.
At 2:45 am, I suddenly had a sense of urgency to read a book about marriage. A book about marriage? That question just filled my mind... Why? I don't think i have ever agonised through a book about marriage. But I did have that sense and felt that after all the ups and downs of 7 years of marriage, there is a need to. I was surprised by myself as in the midst of the busiest time of my ministry, i am thinking about this.
So i went to my study room and ran through the shelves and to my surprise of that all our books were on leadership, children, monastic lifestyles, prayer and counselling, I found none about marriage. There's one called the Act of Marriage by Tim La Haye but I'm convinced it is a book about sex more than it is about marriage. Now that type of book I have.. I was surprised because I've been married for 7 years and I don't have a reference book on marriage. Finally i managed to find a little book given to us called "A Little Book fo Instructions for Couples" which I read before I slept at 3am. It was not quite a book but a little booklet with clever quotes and some bible verses. I learned some great pointers there.
Hemmm, this morning when I woke up, I realise that I didn't pay enough attention to something that is so important and have been running on a discover as I go along mode. Mag is a wonderful wife, mother and friend to me and I try to be to her but being wonderful doesn't mean that we can be in a marriage using our own wisdom or understanding.
We ought to live our lives based on the eternal principles of God. And for matters as delicate and as important as marriage, we ought to be guided. After that I realised I do have 2 books on marriage but it was hidden deep inside the remote parts of the shelves which just comfirm how much we have been lacking in this area.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight".
posted by Hiew Hong Teck # 10:24 AM
Tuesday, July 05, 2005